Monday, November 22, 2010

You Work on You :)

I think if we all took more time to work on ourselves the world would be a much nicer place. You cannot change anyone but yourself so why not start with yourself? If you have someone in your life who is bothering you with annoying habits etc. try changing your perspective about this person. Try giving him or her a compliment or just thinking positive things about him or her. I'm not saying you should become a door mat and be walked on by people, absolutely not.

I am reminded of a story someone once told me: Mr. Smith goes to his Rabbi demanding a divorce from his wife. The Rabbi invites Mr. Smith into his office and asks him to tell him more. Mr. Smith tells the Rabbi that his wife is horrible, she's always nagging him and putting him down, she never has anything nice to say, always complaining and he's had enough! The Rabbi thinks for a minute or two and says to Mr. Smith "I will grant you your divorce if you follow my instructions for six months." Mr. Smith agrees. The Rabbi says "Mr. Smith I want you to go home and start being nice to your wife. I want you to make a positive comment about what she's wearing or how her hair is, thank her for the meals she makes for you and the clean, folded clothes she launders for you etc." Mr. Smith says he can't possibly do this as he does not feel positive about her! The Rabbi says "Do it anyways and I will visit you in six months to grant you your divorce."

Mr. Smith goes home and reluctantly starts thinking about something positive to say to his wife. During dinner he comments on how nice her blouse looks on her and he thanks her for the very yummy dinner she has prepared for him.

Six months goes by and the Rabbi shows up at Mr. Smith's house and knocks on the door. Mr. Smith is excited to see the Rabbi and invites him in. The Rabbi asks where his wife is? Mr. Smith replies she has gone grocery shopping. Mr. Smith asks the Rabbi why he has come by for a visit? The Rabbi says "Well I'm here to grant you your divorce, it's been six months." Mr. Smith says "Divorce! Why would I want to divorce the most beautiful and wonderful wife ever? The Rabbi says "Good, my work is done. Good bye Mr. Smith!

I'm going to go think of something nice to say to my son when he comes home...